“I brought you in this world and I will take you out”..How many times have we heard parents say this? Bill Cosby said it to a lazy Theo and he was applauded by animated co-signing parents who deliver similar edicts of ultimate parental authority. Rarely is such a statement literal?
However, what happens when idle threats go into overdrive…Marvin Gaye for example or like the recent case of 37-year-old Jamar Pinkney Sr. who murdered his 15-yr-old son Jamar Pinkney Jr. for allegedly molesting his 3-year-old sister?
Mom called dad to say their son had been having sexual contact with his baby sister and that they weren’t going to “sweep it under the rug” and she was right because moments later Jamar Sr. supposedly came home, took his namesake out to an empty lot, in their Michigan suburb, made him strip, kneel and ignoring the boys (and his wife’s) plea’s for his life…Sr.shot Jr. execution style.
Today, he faces an inconsolable mother, a jury of his peers and his own conscience. But is this father a monster or did he just follow through on the ultimate parental promise, to both his children? Most parents say they would “kill” the person who harmed their baby…understandable and justifiable. However, what about when that person is your other child? Your son has inappropriately touched your daughter…or vice versa. What do you do?
If this son was molesting his sister he was clearly disturbed and a threat. We can debate why his son was like this and who exposed him until the cows come home, like we can any number of offenders, but the fact is he assaulted a 3 year-old.
Was his fathers choice to take him “out back” the action of a strong parent doing the impossible… but necessary… or is he a cold blooded monster that should be locked away?
I am too sickened to comment. Father was wrong, 15 yr old son was definitely wrong, and how is 3 yr old Sis going to live with these truths when she’s old enough to acknowledge them? sad. very sad.
I actually understand what the father did and see nothing wrong with it.
A few thoughts. A person who sexually molests has been molested theirself. So who molested the 15 yr old? Why did the father kill him and kill him so quickly before he could be questioned? Was it because perhaps he himself had molested his 15 yr old son and didn’t want that information to come out.
It’s sick and tragic and heartbreaking regardless. The father was wrong. Three lives have now been changed for life and one has been extinguished.
I am truly sadden for all parties involved. Romans 12:17-19 says ” Do not repay evil for evil…….Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath. I will repay, says the Lord.
The father has hurt even more people than the son. He, in his actions denied his son the chance of a full recovery/healing, the mother has to bear a painful memory of watching her son being executed right before her eyes, and a little girl may possibly grow up without her father.
God bless them all.
As Amaka, I am too way too sickened to comment. All I can do is pray, with tears. Cannot imagine that boy child, what was going through his head as his own father took his life. Whew!
Wow … so many aspects to this story. I don’t understand how a parent can harm their own child, even in the defense of their other child, but Dad’s reaction seemed to be of a man killing another “man” for harming his daughter. There may have been some other instances leading up to this, and Dad felt he had to end it because it would not get any better. I believe, though, that Dad didn’t have to kill the boy … what was described in the article, “made him strip and kneel”, would have scared anyone into never touching that 3 yr old again and to get some help. A family completely destroyed.
This is a very complex issue that resulted in extreme action on the fathers part. I do not condone it in one bit. I am sure there is more to this story though. Sexual abuse is something we need to understand better. It needs to be exposed more so that we can deal with it more directly. I do feel that sexual predators should be faced with harsher charges from our legal system when caught. Do I think they should be murdered? NO. DO I think they can be treated(Sexual Predators)? Some can, certainly. I think it should be taken on a case by case basis though. We can’t clump sexual predators all together. It seems that is what our justice system does. In the case of this young boy, I am sure he himself had been molested. Would he have turned into a murderous sexual predator one day? I guess we will never know. But he deserved a chance to be treated for it and not dealt with in such a hasty thoughtless manner. Its so devastating to the whole family and the community, this fathers action. It certainly has not made things better. I am so saddened by this story. It really does show the lack of understanding we have on this issue. Please, lets all start to talk about this more openly so that we can find a solution for how to deal with it.
This is the way it was done in the Hebrew scriptures(aka the Old testament) however, Jesus Christ came and taught forgiveness. The father has ruiined three lives because he took one life. The boy needed help and the father was judge and jury, he has to live with this as does the mother and the little girl when she learns all the facts.
Too sad, just too sad and I am already depressed because my mother died Christmas week 12 years ago, and now this.
None of us can judge this man or this family for this heinous act. All any of us can do is pray for this tragic family, and all the suffering families on our planet. Only God can judge, AND, redeem this man. The hatred, hurt and pain in this man’s heart, against his own son, has to be unbearable for him and to everyone involved. This young man’s death has touched so many people, and the way he was murdered by his own father is unspeakable. We must forgive him now. His days are numbered, and his life is in hell. But, even this man is a child of a loving, all-merciful and forgiving God.
This is one of the most horrible stories I’ve read since …. last week, actually. As I started reading the comments, I was outraged & agreeable about how could his happen, shame on him, etc., etc., etc., but in the end – I had to calm down & agree w/Jean Perry. We cannot judge – let God handle it as horrible as it is. I’ve heard of parents killing their child in self defense (as an adult child beating their parents), but this sad & blatant act – how can you wrap your brain around it all? Pray for the family & let God do what he does best.
This was so sad. The poor father let his emotions abouth his son’s behavior hijack a more intelligent alternative. I wish he had taken time to really feel his emotions and act more appropriately. When you know better, you should do better. This story led me to consider self-awareness and management more thoroughly.